Tuesday, January 18, 2022
when your child's dorm room makes it to the tabloids
Sunday, January 16, 2022
Pongal-O-Pongal
I've always loved Pongal, amongst many other reasons, for giving me a second chance at beginning afresh. And I definitely need it this year.
My mom calls the sun "pratyakshadeva"--the god who makes himself visible to us every day (not necessarily in Michigan, but you know...) and I love that.
I have to say, Hinduism comes back to me in unpredictable ways... Klara's literal sun worship in Ishiguro's Klara and the Sun didn't strike me as odd at all because I've been there. Ha.
Tuesday, January 11, 2022
Grid Life
Day 1 on on the Laura Vanderkam time tracker challenge (since yesterday was mostly travel and touring); Day 6 on Wordle (100%, Baby); and Day 0 of finding ways of minimizing administrative duties.
My lovely colleague-mentor L had suggested that I disengage and use the sabbatical to good use--and I pared down campus engagement. But just today I got asked to join a search committee and a journal review board--and I said yes. It can't be helpful to anyone if I keep taking on every opportunity that flits across my timeline.
Saturday, January 08, 2022
"little talks"
1) This past week, I've had some tough conversations with Big A (diminishing family time); Nu (screen time and schoolwork); At (patchy/magical Covid protocol) so I'm glad Scout thinks I'm just the greatest.
2) B.E.S. asked if I would officiate at their wedding reception... I love B.E.S. (student>colleague>friend) and am beyond honored... but also have also have no idea how to go about it.
3) Scheduled a professional WGS talk in March--I'm more confident of doing alright with this.
4) Lots of phone calls this weekend--in the absence of real meetups, these are the talks I love best!
I do not like this song, but since titling this post, it's my personal ear worm.
Friday, January 07, 2022
"Powerful beyond stage and screen"
My parents were such huge fans of Sir Sidney Poitier, they had us kids watch all their favorites on VHS.
I must have thought of them as documentary, so imagine my horror and surprise when I got to the USA and realized that racism hadn't been neatly resolved decades ago.
But in these past decades, I've come to appreciate what an amazing trailblazer he was even "beyond stage and screen" as Bernice King notes.
Rest in Power, Sir.
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Vaguely related: I gave At this this Desmond Tutu apron for Christmas and the Rev. died the very next week; At gave me this edition of In the Heat of the Night and now Sir Sidney is no more. How jinx-y are we?
Thursday, January 06, 2022
"change not closure"
Wednesday, January 05, 2022
anniversary
Yup, the anniversary of the most insane and scary thing I've witnessed in real time is tomorrow.
Anyway, Jamie Raskin's book about this week last year is in my checkout cart--but I'm not sure if I'm ready to read it.
Just his brave interview on Fresh Air nearly crumbled me.
I am still not over Tommy Raskin (I may never be).
Thursday, December 30, 2021
a better next year
This week--with its radio silence on my work email--reminded me how much of my workday is responding to scheduled events and corresponding about projects. I'll need to shift out of that mode over sabbatical so I have something worthwhile at the end of it. I really, really, really need to get in the zone with my writing projects.
Despite the seemingly universal experience of having 2020 drag and 2021 sprint, I think I ought to compartmentalize more effectively after two years of practicing pandemic panic. That's going to be my big goal for 2022.
Drove up to the office today to collect some books, water my plants, pick up mail, etc. and I had a lot of time to reflect. (Also feel like I'm on the verge of a big cry--but that could just be from loping through Bewilderment and being too tired to cry at 2 am or whenever it was that I finished it.)
Tuesday, December 28, 2021
abecedarian for 2021
Monday, December 27, 2021
up and down
Speaking of which, Big A felt a bit symptomatic and we've quarantined him. We tried to order home tests, but of course nothing's readily available. I asked around, and the lovely SH who was saving some for the baby shower let me have a couple.
He tested negative, but perhaps it's too early? I mean does one have to wait a while? This feels like taking a pregnancy test the day after sex.
Sunday, December 26, 2021
post-jolly
A couple of Boxing Day visits, but Nu felt a bit stretched thin, so we canceled another visit and headed home to cuddle up with puppies and veg in pajamas.
I'm calling this Christmas a success. There was a moment on Christmas Eve, when the kids were poking holes in the books (On Tyranny Graphic Edition) I meant to send them to bed with, when I panicked hard about what to do if they didn't like any gifts the next day. But things were Hallmark-perfect on Christmas; all is well.
As I shared with people at Zoom UU this morning, Christmas with an adult child is an evolving celebration. I've been taking notes on how other people are navigating change, and my favorite one is where people go off to some place sunny--I can see that being Big A and me someday.
Right now though, I'm off to watch the last ever ep of Insecure, which I've been hoarding as my secret Boxing Day treat.
Tuesday, December 21, 2021
stable
Big A is back; my back feels better; got cards and presents in the mail; a few visits (and presents); did our third session of family therapy; ordered in pizza; read together; watched Bob's Burgers (with Nu) and Station Eleven (after Nu went to bed); got my aunt's hopes up about a visit home; celebrated the end of the Kelloggs' strike...
A long day... the longest day of the year... and it was cozy and a nice balance of Christmas with other good things.
Pic: multiculti altar w/ nativity scene
Thursday, December 16, 2021
bell hooks
I've learned so much from her since my first feminist theory class and I've always had her work in all of the classes I teach. Students love how easy and joyous her work is and how richly rooted in love and community. I gave copies of her All About Love: New Visions to lots of people just last Christmas, including At who fell in love with it.
(And I had to talk myself out of being irritated by people who used uppercase to spell her name in their canned tributes although it felt so disrespectful; and I have to look away from the early death of another black activist; and I'm sitting with Kaye Wise Whitehead's "It is sometimes hard to imagine being in a world when the geniuses of your time are no longer in it.")
Tuesday, December 14, 2021
more perfect (re)unions
Saturday, December 11, 2021
a sad story without pictures
Not pictured: me at 1:15 when Nu and Big A decided it was too cold to walk and that we should turn around and take the car instead.
Also not pictured: me at 1:20 when we collectively realized that the reason we hadn't had power since 11 am or thereabouts was because there was a downed wire across our street. Also realizing this made it impassable for us to get to the Wharton.
Also not pictured: me at 1:25 begging Nu and Big A to walk to the show through the church grounds.
Also not pictured: me at 1:30 begging them to let me go to the show by myself at least.
Also not pictured: L and T trying to help me find my way--blocked at every turn by police and utility vehicles (if not by downed wires).
Also not pictured: me at 1:53 giving up.
Thursday, December 09, 2021
newsy
In other news, I took great pleasure in letting fam and friends know that a Trader Joe's is coming to town--about 2-3 mins away from us. I foresee Big A biking over there for last minute groceries instead of Whole Foods.
And in other gentrification news, I'm watching with horror--via friends and FB--the intersecting mesh mess of schadenfreude, transphobia, and anti-blackness in the latest Dave Chappelle vs. Yellow Springs clash.
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Pic: We're all looking at Big A.
Sunday, December 05, 2021
the week that was
Saturday, December 04, 2021
my eyes are... out here?
Today, I spent the morning interviewing students for scholarships and...
It was demoralizing that a couple of potential students with great GPAs, neurotypical presentation, pre-med intentions... just wouldn't make eye-contact with me.
And I understand these are teenagers who've spent close to two years mostly seeing people virtually or masked, but this was not about that.
I interviewed with a (male, white) colleague, and at every question, even if I had been the one who asked the question, they'd look earnestly at my colleague while they answered. One student who was otherwise equitable at dividing their time between interviewers, focussed solely on my colleague while describing their football success.
I checked with my colleague to see if he had noticed it too--and he had. He said he'd tried to look at me while they were answering to model etiquette. (To no avail, apparently.)
I guess I'm lucky this doesn't happen all the time, but c'mon kids!
Saturday, November 27, 2021
for you too may have / questions about this story
Wednesday, November 24, 2021
in the news (and not in a good way)
I'm thankful this isn't last year.
But as a colleague's tweet reminds me, some of that is just my/our ennui and exhaustion with the pandemic and things aren't really going so well.
Our state leads the nation in new cases and the lede photo for this NYT article, about the morphing re-formations of the pandemic, is from our local hospital system.
Reentry
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Friends and old neighbors shutting it down in honor of John Crawford. _
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