the hunt of love and desire
Sunday, November 28, 2021
Friday, November 26, 2021
Later, we packed up the grandparents with snacks, cider, and one of the flower arrangements from yesterday's table, and waved our goodbyes as they headed back to Ohio.
Then a long soak with Big A, a great heart-to-heart with Nu, + snacks + old sitcoms + naps.
It was the perfect chaser to yesterday.
Thursday, November 25, 2021
Tuesday, November 23, 2021
The Tuesday before Thanksgiving... all the students who were going to come to class came; some no shows--but many of them sent me an email beforehand. I find these last weeks so fulfilling as students work the lessons and discussions of term into building their own research projects.
There was no one in the English Bay after I was done with classes, and I got noisy moving furniture around in my conference corner, cleaning, tidying, decluttering and making sure my plants would have enough to drink over the break.
Strange to think we'll be off for almost a whole week.
And then suddenly term will be over.
Just like that.
Saturday, November 20, 2021
I missed an important deadline and the candlesticks I'd planned to use for the Thanksgiving table broke, but I spent a lot of time snuggled up like this...
(Scout can't jump up onto the sofa as he once could, but Big A picks him up and places him on my feet.)
Friday, November 19, 2021
I'd been panicking on what to do about dinner since I would get home after five, but Big A stepped up and made his amazing Brazilian seafood soup and his famous tapioca pao and then Kate brought homemade chocolate macarons (with cardamom! because I'm Indian!) and we feasted.
I know some very good people. And they make delicious things.
Thursday, November 18, 2021
Wednesday, November 17, 2021
Darkness feels deafening tonight. A student at Nu's school has been missing since last week. I do not know this young person or their family, but many of my local friends do. When I asked Nu if they'd seen the missing child recently, they said that they hadn't "in years." That was such a stark reminder that disappearance comes in many forms.
I caught a picture of this close to full moon through our skylights just before bed--darkness, shadows, dead leaves, and all... it was nevertheless a kind reminder that in an another part of the world, huge numbers of my family are gathering to celebrate the Karthika full moon soon.
Monday, November 15, 2021
Saturday, November 13, 2021
Wednesday, November 10, 2021
* When my students don't have parents/good relationships with parents/are going through a particularly hard time, it takes everything not to jump in and be their parent. Big A mentioned that I have gotten so much better at maintaining a professional boundary. Yes... and I know how much of an effort I have to put into it.
* Celebrated SH's impending parenthood and I'm so excited to hold her newborn and generally be a new mom helper soon.
* I accepted a new CASA case--a child who has been subjected to parental incest-abuse for years. They are surrounded with support and services right now, and I hope I can be another useful tool in their journey.
*My time with the one human kid and two puppy kids living at home is the highlight of every day. But I don't get very much time with them on weekdays (especially on teaching days) and need to find ways to make them meaningful. Usually it's: a cuddle and then breakfast--we start at 5:45 am! At the end of the day it's: dinner together > a show/game > me conking out with the puppies. It's pleasant and cozy but fairly humdrum.
Pic: My NuNu sneaking a treat from the tray I made for SH's visit.
Tuesday, November 09, 2021
Haven't vetted the veracity of this, but apparently there's a dog school "in Canada" so dogs don't have to stay home alone, and this appears to be their school bus.
BRB. Going to check if Scoutie and Huckie feel like running away with me.
Sunday, November 07, 2021
Saturday, November 06, 2021
examine one reed then
Friday, November 05, 2021
With my beautiful, brilliant babies. (Huck is in that first picture too... somewhere!)
We had dinner after pooja, lingering at the table forever, and then we took a starlight walk to help Nu put the chickies to bed.
I made a payasam (with oats, raisins, coconut, and almonds) that was delicious... but also the laziest sweet one can make (it took ten minutes from start to finish). It has, after all, been a long week. 😇
(Did Diwali go mainstream this year somehow? We received a record number of Diwali greetings from non-Indian friends this year...)
Saturday, October 30, 2021
Friday, October 29, 2021
Here I am waiting for Big A to give me a ride to the g/f's halloween party tonight.
(I'm supposed to be a butterfly... a social butterfly. Ha.)
Tuesday, October 26, 2021
Big A went to Boston to accept an award and all I got was this cute and fuzzy picture!
It was a sudden trip so there was some scrounging around for childcare coverage, but things worked out fine. I found myself getting a bit antsy as one meeting after my fourth class of the day ran past 5:00 pm, but... I got home by dinner time, got everyone their dinner, and got all the kid and puppy cuddles I could handle.
Monday, October 25, 2021
At least being stuck indoors meant I got things off the to-do list like a monster since I had all that new week energy anyway.
Excited for student projects to take off this week.
Not excited about meeting HR to troubleshoot health insurance for Nu.
Sunday, October 24, 2021
Still busy celebrating Big A's birthday weekend here. Also: UU, OWL, gardening, A hang with JL to celebrate her new place. But also a weekend where I seem to have blown off three parties (a secular muddle of early halloween and karva chauth) due to a combination of work/malaise.
When I complained about the foggy day to EM as I was trying to beg off going on a walk with her, she said we should pretend we were "visiting Scotland or some other place where the dreary weather has been romanticized." My friends are loving, forgiving and so, so smart.
Friends and old neighbors shutting it down in honor of John Crawford. _
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