Friday, November 28, 2025

post Friendsgiving post

While I was puttering around, putting things away after dinner, I found these three (At, Huck, and Max) all cozied up...

At told me she's moving to Chicago at the end of year. 

"At the end of the year," so there's some time, I thought. Before realizing that it's already the end of November. 

I'm happy for her as she's outgrown Lansing. And she was supposed to move to Seattle this year before all the tragedies happened. And Chicago is much closer. But it will mean that our impromptu trips and hangs are numbered.

Nu who was napping elsewhere when I took this pic watched the Lilith Fair documentary with me. I watched it earlier this month and LOVED IT SO MUCH. I laughed, I cried, I goosebumped up, I texted people about it, I was inspired... When I say something is feminist, this is what I want it to mean--not merely that it's women-centered, but that it is anti-patriarchal. That it is about people who support each other, that they offer opportunities to groups who are typically shut out, that they make childcare and family healthcare available, that they listen to critique (for instance, that black women artists are underrepresented) without getting defensive and work to fix it, that there is confidence being in such a space that racists and homophobes are unwelcome. 

Nu and I were looking at each other all starry-eyed, wishing we could go to one...

5 comments:

Lisa's Yarns said...

Change is hard but I am glad that At won't be too far away. Chicago is better than Seattle for proximity/ease of visits. But it's still hard to not have your child a short distance away!

Nicole said...

Chicago is not too far! Still. It's a big change!

Nance said...

Big changes, but big congrats to At. We raise our children to be independent and have good lives apart from us. We mourn that, but we're proud when it happens, too. Chicago is a great city to visit! I love that place.

I'm so proud of the men in my family who are true feminists. Someday, I want you to meet them.

Life of a Doctor's Wife said...

Oh wow -- that is a big change. Hoping it is as easy a transition as possible for you both.

StephLove said...

I'm sure that will be hard for you when she leaves, but it will be an exciting new chapter for her. I remember those years of living in DC, in our mid-20s, fresh out of grad school (or between stints for me) as being such a pivotal time, almost like new parenthood.

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