Sunday, June 22, 2025

the hits keep coming

I worked in the garden for six hours straight, with Max and Huck for company now and again, because I could not bear to be around the radio or my computer. I planted, replanted, cleaned the pond, fixed some fencing, and weeded a ton. They say we had a heat wave today. I guess? It was very hot and I was a sweaty mess by the time I decided to head back in. (I barely sweat usually, so this is kind of a big deal.) 

Also, I noticed flat white spots on my legs last week. I think I have IGH (Idiopathic Guttate Hypomelanosis). (Self-diagnosis via Google, and Big A concurs.) I thought it was age-related--like liver spots only in reverse, but no--it's because I'm such a sun-seeker. Also, as a proper Indian person, my first thought was leprosy, and it reminded me of the summer all the adults in the family tested me for leprosy with a safety pin.  

In serious health news, MIL had a mini stroke and has a cardioversion scheduled for next week. She would like me to enjoy my visit with my mom, but I wish I could go / feel like I should go be with her. In any case, this reminder of how quickly people's health can undergo a shift is unwelcome.

And world news continues to be awful. Children are eating dirt in Gaza while trucks with food to feed a million people are blockaded a few miles away. Plus we seem to be drifting into a war. I'm sorry for all the people in the bombed cities in Iran, but I was particularly devastated to hear Isfahan was one of them. I always longed to visit that ancient city known as "half the world." Also, I didn't think I'd be grateful for discrimination, but at least the military won't want my trans kids.

Pic: Yesterday I stopped by my office to pick up some books and water my plants and saw the college spirit rock had new colors. I wonder if it's the work of new Indian students or new Irish students. I've always loved how the mutual flag colors represent the alliances between the Irish and Indian independence movements

17 comments:

Nicole said...

This was a roller coaster! I am going to spend many hours in the garden today, catching up from my absence due to the road trip last week. I AM a sweaty kind of person when I exercise, but not quite as much while gardening. Ah well, that's what showers are for.
Leprosy!!! I've always thought it would present as red spots, not white, but I am NOT googling it because I don't actually want that information.
I'm so sorry about your MIL!! I hope she heals quickly. My mother had a mini-stroke in 2019 and because EMS was able to intervene quickly, she has no effects from it.
"At least the military won't want my trans kids" - dark humour but I'm here for it. When the current president was talking about Canada a few months ago, I realized that I have had a fear that my kids would be in the military, and indeed, when there was talk about "taking over" the country both boys said that if it came down to it, they'd join up. And Maya, just typing that is giving me sweaty palpitations. I have to go do some deep breathing now.

StephLove said...

Gardening sounds like good therapy for you. I have been checking off the years until my oldest (cisgender male) child isn't eligible for the draft any more since he was 18. At 24, he's getting close. It doesn't really seem like an issue for the AFAB, non-binary, disabled kid.

StephLove said...

Nicole, I'm sorry they even have to think about that.

Nance said...

So comforting to have a Doctor In The House!

Being in Nature is also comforting during these times. It's astonishing the things we think about lately. It's as if no one in high places is aware of any of them, or cares.

Take care of yourself and do what you can in your world, as always.

Jeanie said...

I remember meeting your MIL at Nu's gathering and she was lovely. I'm so sorry to hear that news. I hope her cardioversion goes well. I send wishes for her full healing.

I could barely go outside yesterday -- the heat and my breathing don't agree when it's humid. Your garden, though, is a haven from these challenging times. I'd love to cral under a rock. And leprosy -- glad it's not that. Might Big A take a look to confirm Dr. Google? I've panicked with Dr. G. needlessly more than once!

Bibliomama said...

Ugh, Maya, you know I'm right there with you on people's health changing on a dime. I am behind on gardening because of the five days away for grad and now being too sick to go outside even if there wasn't a heat warning. Gardening until I need to shower is one of the most satisfying ways to get hot and gross though.
Yeah. It's all terrible, except the not-terrible stuff.

maya said...

Nicole--Your comment was a roller coaster too! It's 2025, why are we having conversations about sending our children to war as if we're living in the dark ages?!? I'm right there with Steph--so sorry they have to think about it.
Thank you for sharing about your mom--that is quite cheering. And your Google comment made me chortle.
Glad you're back from road trip! Are you glad to get back to your summer routines?

maya said...

I remember when At's draft card just showed up in the mail... they're not kidding with this. If push comes to shove, I feel they'll press everyone (except the rich and powerful) into service, you know? Sorry for being so bitter and not very reassuring.

maya said...

Like that lovely Tom Paine quote in your post...

Thank you for the reminder, Nance. This is the heart of my rapport with you <3

maya said...

Thank you, Jeanie--I will pass your wishes on to her.
The heat looks like it's here to stay for a bit--I hope you get some relief indoors and that you can head up North soon!

maya said...

The not-terrible stuff makes me feel so, so lucky, Allison (suspect it's the same for you). Why is so much else garbage though!?
I hope you feel better soon!

Lisa's Yarns said...

I have those same white spots and wondered what they were! I was going to ask the dermatologist when I go in for a skin check but what you googled sounds accurate.

I am sorry to hear about your MIL! I hope the cardioversion goes well. She is right, though. You should enjoy the time with your family. She'll have Big A to attend to her which is there anything better than a son who is a doctor?

Stephany said...

Life is scary and cruel and TOO MUCH these days. I'm so tired of the constant awfulness.

I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. I hope she has a swift recovery!

maya said...

IGH sounds benign but also there's nothing that can be done about it :/. I think it shows more dramatically on my dark skin.

I don't know if A will be able to go, which is why I offered.

maya said...

Thank you, Stephany. (And sorry if some of that brought you down!)

NGS said...

I was at a high school grad party on Saturday. When we got back to the house and saw the news, the mother of the grad said sadly, "I wish he hadn't just turned eighteen" and we were both almost crying. This world is going to be a hard place for our young people.

maya said...

That got me going too, Engie. (Wiping eyes) It doesn't have to be... and if it were up to us, it wouldn't be.

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