Monday, February 10, 2025

my tiny domestic tragedies

Big A seemed a bit better yesterday. But he didn't think so. I think he likes being taken care of. It makes me think of my hero, June Jordan, saying "None of us has known enough tenderness" and how Big A is usually the one taking care of people. Today A says he's better... but not well. Tomorrow he's scheduled to work. He plans to go for it despite my misgivings. 

Last year, when he ended up in the hospital for a week it was because of complications from the long Covid he got when he went to help out in NYC at the peak of the pandemic in May 2020 (way before any vaccine). So this third round of Covid terrifies me on a deep level--I keep imagining the effects lingering on even after things seem normal.

In the hits keep coming department: Nu's extensive filling came out, they slipped and fell on the ice, and their phone stopped working. Guess which thing made them cry? I'll have to get things fixed for my baby tomorrow.

This piece by Mhawish "I Spoke With 20 People in Gaza After the Ceasefire. My Heart Broke 20 Times" is as heartbreaking as it sounds, and is searingly poetic and will live inside me forever. This is massacre delicately uncovered to help us understand how excruciating the human loss in *each* of the hundreds of thousands reported dead, injured, and bereaved. How domestic tragedies multiply into humanitarian disgrace...

Pic: It's still icy, but there was some fresh snow, which made it easier to walk on and brilliant blue skies and sunshine. Max, Huck, and I are easily pleased, I guess.

20 comments:

Sarah said...

Sometimes as mom of older kids, I cherish that I can still swoop in and make everything OK. I hope everyone is on the upswing today.

Nicole said...

I hope today is a better day! Nu's day reminds me of one Jake had years ago, he slipped on ice but fell into icy mud, and his pants and coat were absolutely covered. AND GIRLS SAW THIS HAPPEN MAYA that was the big tragedy. He came home wearing his gym clothes in the middle of winter, and then the whole story came out.

Lisa's Yarns said...

It sounds like Nu had a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. I had the same kind of day. The hits just kept coming. But today is a new day. I hope that A is truly well enough to return to work and that he’s not pushing himself too hard. Long Covid is so scary and we know so little about it! Poor guy and poor you for worrying about him.

StephLove said...

I'm glad A is feeling better, but I can understand why you'd worry about long covid. It's a scary thing.

Sometimes it's nice to have a problem with a fix.

Jenny said...

Oooh... Nu's phone stopped working. THAT is the obvious tragedy here!
Hope A really is better. And how are you feeling? I hope you're able to stay healthy.

Nance said...

Oh, Maya. That Jordan quote really gave me pause. I will reaffirm my mantra today that Kindness Is My Default.

I hope your husband is not pushing himself too much to work tomorrow. I'd be worried, too.

Poor Nu! So much Badness in a day. How terribly unfair. AND NO PHONE--AARRGGHH!

You have a lot of people depending on you. Take care of yourself, my friend. XO

NGS said...

How do you even survive without a phone?! SO MUCH TRAGEDY.

J said...

Oh Maya, thank you for sharing that piece about the people in Gaza after the cease fire. It brought me to tears, and is so heartbreaking. War is hell. Some of those stories will live in my heart forever as well.

maya said...

That's the dream! Thanks, Sarah!

maya said...

Oh, Nicole--that does sound so uncomfortable on every level. My heart goes out to tween? teen? Jake!

maya said...

I do hope your day got better, Lisa. I think Nu felt better after a good cry, and as you say, today is a new day.

maya said...

True, Steph--Wish I could fix A's problem as easily as Nu's.

maya said...

Ding! Ding! Ding! Yes, the phone was the tragedy that broke my poor teen. Luckily, no one else caught it from A. I wish I could say he's all better, but he really isn't.

maya said...

Nance, that Jordan quote changed the way I think about teaching. So much goodness there. Thank you for the kind wishes. And I think you already manifest kindness, BTW.

maya said...

You're probably too young for this, Engie--but this song started playing in my head: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WFd-Yk73U_o

maya said...

<3 to you, J. It's so strange hearing you thank me for this. I hesitate to share sometimes because people are already battling so much themselves. But it also seems important to bear witness so these beautiful lives don't disappear as though they never existed.

Gillian said...

Take care

maya said...

Thanks, Gillian!

Jeanie said...

What's that saying about it never rains but it pours? I can relate and only say I hope that Big A is better than better before venturing back into the germ factory. When I went in for my fall on the 2nd, a Sunday, I was early and was taken in the ER right away. When I emerged six hours later the waiting room was packed. Kudos to those who brave all that every day.

maya said...

I'm sorry to hear about your fall, Jeanie... With all the snow and ice we've had, it's always on my mind. I hope it wasn't serious and that you're not in pain and are mending well.

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