For me, "I love you" is the easiest. I love people and can feel and show love to strangers, so saying it to the many people I care about is NBD.
I apologize... a lot. Some of it is social conditioning and I'm actually trying not to do so much of it. Once I tripped over a chair and apologized to it, so I'm a work in progress, but no--it's not hard for me.
Admitting I'm wrong, however--that takes some effort. I like being right, and am willing to use my training in rhetoric to argue why I'm right. But I'm working on being less defensive overall. I'm usually excited when something I hear or read changes my mind--it reminds me that I'm still learning (am capable of learning) so that's a good sign.
The most difficult thing however, is asking for help. It's never been because it's something I can't do. But I do take on too much, think I'm the only person who can do whatever it is, worry about how other people are busy... I do everything wrong in this category.
Hardest (in descending order): B, D, A, C.
I wonder how other people see this.
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I am the same as you in terms of order. And using rhetoric training to prove I am right— and STICKING WITH IT LONGER THAN I SHOULD.
Interesting.
My order would be the same as yours, I think, although I do find it easier to say I was wrong as I get older. However, I'm Canadian, so I'm sorry a lot of the time! Lol. But I would say that D and A are closer together.
D is usually hard. A and B sometimes but usually not. C is easy.
I have a terrible time asking for help. I don't like being perceived as weak, ever. I'm very independent, always have been, and I'm used to doing things by and for myself. Asking for help makes me feel weak and under obligation. I hate that.
The rest are easy for me, equally so. Teaching teenagers helped me embrace saying "I was wrong" because it made me more authentic and, let's face it, they loved hearing it. That took the sting right out of it.
Sarah--OMG, Me too. Esp. with my partner.
Nicole, Steph--That coheres with the way I see you!
Nance--And yes, I can see B being a stretch for you. But thanks so much for that tip on D. I do like to make people happy, so perhaps that'll help me admit being wrong more easily.
B, C, A, and D. I hate having to ask for help and that's a big problem in my life. LOL. It's an interesting question that makes you do some soul-searching. I say I'm wrong all the time and apologizing is second nature as a woman.
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