Sunday, July 05, 2026

memoriam

I feel like          I will always be looking for you          don't know where to look for you          but I know every word           to your favorite song          I look at my body with some hesitation          but your favorite cake is now mine          at least these things will live happily ever after          it's an odd game, the going--          to be here in the brain's chorus and words          and so gone from the world
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Pic: I haven't been to UU on Sundays since Scout (because sitting in silence makes me think of him and I prefer not to cry in public). But RDC, where I've been volunteering this summer, meets in the UU building. It was a "blast from the past" (as the family chat termed it) to see all our badges still sitting up there on the carousel.

18 comments:

Nicole said...

That's a beautiful poem, Maya. xo

StephLove said...

The line about cake struck me because when I am missing my dad, I often like to eat his favorite foods, especially chocolate ice cream.

Nance said...

This poem...wow. I am always startled by your metaphors; they are so incredibly apt.

"it's an odd game...world": these lines are haunting and so absolutely true.

Gillian said...

Take care.

Lisa's Yarns said...

Such a stunning poem, Maya! Thinking of you and sending you hugs!

suzanne day by day said...

Thank you for this poem, Maya. I love the idea of appropriating the favorites of those you've lost, relatable and beautiful and heartbreaking. The line "to be here in the brain's chorus" makes me think of earworms, and how those play on a loop in my head, which feels startling and recognizable when I view "earworm" as "memory of someone I loved."

I also really enjoyed how the line break between "going--" and "to be here" allowed the double meaning of "going to be here" as in "EXPECTED be here" or "SHOULD to be here."

Sending you love.

J said...

I became very attached to the color orange after my father died, it was his favorite color. I ate my mom’s favorite cake (angel food) for years on her birthday. I did this year too, and it was…OK. I think I need better angel food cake. I have rules around WORDLE that connect me to my dog. I make my blog posts go live at 4:23, because my mom’s birthday was April 23. I did none of these things when they were alive, but they help me feel connected and like they are close.

This is a lovely poem, and I love the picture of your name tags in there. The UU is ready if you ever want to go back, clearly.

NGS said...

I love that your tags are still there. What a lovely place to hold a place for all of you.

maya said...

Thanks, Love xoxo

maya said...

I've come across that in many families and traditions too <3

maya said...

Thank you, Nance. I'm so grateful for your attentive and caring reading <3

maya said...

Thank you!

maya said...

Thank you, Lisa. Hugs back!

maya said...

Thank *you*, Suzanne! Love your reading of the line break.

maya said...

I love all your rituals and traditions, J. (And look how "Puppy" paid off :). You keep your mom and dad's memory alive in this world. I feel like I know so many details about them as humans to respect and love and all the ways in which you live their best qualities forward <3

Shakespeare is so lucky to share a birthday with your mom! And yes, it did feel like gentle pat on the back to see those name badges.

maya said...

They haven't given up on me :). Although, realistically speaking, I don't think the kids are going with me anymore...

Jeanie said...

This poem touches me so very deeply. It really strikes such a deep chord.

maya said...

<3 Thanks, Jeanie

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