Tuesday, August 26, 2025

the news is sadness

I legit started to cry when I read that Serena Williams... THE Serena Williams, the GOAT... is taking weight-loss medications. People should do whatever they want with their own bodies, obviously. But the idea that this body which propelled her to greatness somehow needed to be made... smaller, made me feel hopeless about people ever being able to escape social size standards. Perhaps this hit me harder because Nicole wrote so movingly about maitri and self-love towards oneself this week. And perhaps some of this was because Big A, who before being sick was the fittest person I know personally--running marathons, doing triathlons, and once even besting Usain Bolt on the Peloton--was thrilled about having lost a significant amount of weight. He has been ill for nearly two months--how is his resultant body change something celebratory?

And then it turns out that our Transportation Secretary Sean Duffy sent letters to all 50 governors calling for the removal of Pride crosswalks. (The connection between transportation and crosswalks seems a bit tenuous to me?) Florida has been the first state to comply. In many places including at the Pulse Nightclub memorial where many LGBTQ people were gunned down in 2016, residents have been chalking pride colors back where they are being erased, and now the governor is sending the police to stand at crosswalks to make sure that doesn't happen. Is this really the most pressing issue for law enforcement? These people seem to have no sense or shame.

Pic: Sunrise with Max. It's in the 40s and chilly this week! Too soon!

22 comments:

Nicole said...

Oh no, not Serena!!! Oh, that makes me SO sad. I'm also sad about Big A of course - (HE BESTED USAIN BOLT ON PELOTON PLEASE TELL ME EVERYTHING) - gosh, it's been two months, this is so hard for you. I'm sorry, friend.

Gillian said...

Take care.

Sarah said...

Yes. It is ok to want to be smaller. Respecting bodily autonomy and expression is respecting bodily autonomy and expression, IMO

StephLove said...

Diet culture really has its hooks in almost all women and quite a few men, too, it seems.

I am so bummed about the crosswalk thing, even though it's a small thing. But that's the point, I think, to demoralize us. They hate any little things that brings us joy. The next thing you know they will be outlawing puppies and kittens.

J said...

My grandmother had an eating disorder, low level in that she couldn’t eat anything without shame, but she never got that horrible body dysmorphia I don’t think. Anyway, I remember when she was in her late 80s, she was hospitalized for something or another (broken bone? - she had osteoporosis early, broke her hip at 40, likely a combination of dieting and smoking) and she asked my great aunt (her sister) to check her chart and see how much she weighed. “102” was the answer. “Damn, I thought I would have done better.” 80 something years old, in a hospital bed, and she’s frustrated and feels guilty that she has only lost a pound in 2 days. It’s bullshit.

NGS said...

I mostly just want to complain that I've had to wear a sweatshirt to walk the dog for the last few mornings and I'm super upset about it. August should be the hottest month of the year and I'm over here being CHILLY. I refuse to acknowledge the reality of this timeline.

Lisa's Yarns said...

I take a different viewpoint on the use of GLP-1s as she might be taking them because she is pre-diebetic? I don't love athletes promoting weight loss drugs but I'm sure the money is hard to turn down. I have a couple of family members on weight loss drugs because they are pre-diebetic so I know they are doing it for longevity reasons. I don't love how easy it is to get access to those drugs as there are side effects that should be discussed with a medical professional! I get the sense that a lot of mid-life ladies are getting rxs through places like HERS. :/

Jenny said...

I loved Nicole's post. Yes, that is sad about Serena Williams! It's just a sad state of affairs in general. And, yes of course Florida is rushing to remove their pride crosswalks! Gee, I wonder why I want to move (well- that's not the only reason, but there are sure fewer and fewer reasons to stay!)

Nance said...

I feel like Serena Williams--who I see as a tower of strength and independence and confidence, among other things--made her decision without diminishing any of those things. I respect it, period, a la Sarah's last sentence.

As far as this administration's relentless assault on every single thing that is not traditional WASP Male Merica, I'm sick. And it wouldn't surprise me one little bit if Netanyahu and the spray-tan felon have a deal to make Gaza into a Middle East Atlantic City once the obliteration is complete.

(I'm sorry. The last half of August has been yucky.)

Chiconky said...

Jameela Jamil had a good take on the Serena Williams/GLP-1 issue. She talks about how there's privilege to being able to access all the ancillary treatments necessary to be successful with GLP-1s, and that there is a responsibility to those promoting them to be transparent about the resources needed. I also think it's problematic that her husband is a shareholder in the company that she's promoting. In my opinion, I think it's highly unlikely that she actually used them

Bibliomama said...

I can't even express how rageful the rainbow crosswalk thing makes me. It's fucking unconscionable.

maya said...

<3 Nicole
I have a screenshot! I'll send it to you!

maya said...

Thank you!

maya said...

100%

maya said...

Steph--thanks for that reminder that it is about demoralization. I should learn not to take the bait!

maya said...

Oh, J. This story will stick with me forever. It makes me think of something you said about your aunt in a wedding photograph once...

maya said...

Right there with you, Engie! This is B.S.

maya said...

Lisa, she doesn't need to explain her choice to me. But I don't think she's said she's pre-diabetic. She has family who are diabetic--that is something most black folk in this country can say.

maya said...

Such a pity, Jenny. All that glorious sunshine and beaches. If only people could relax and enjoy instead of being so hateful.

maya said...

Ha. My first response: I don't know what was so un-yucky about the first half of August...

maya said...

Thank you. I was worried the internet would make it as though these two women were pitted against each other despite JJ repeatedly saying she respects SW's choices etc. I did think those were valid reminders.

maya said...

"Rageful" is exactly the word I want, Allison. They won't even let us have such a small thing. But as StephLove said, it's about demoralizing people.

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