Today, I had a long tea with JG and she got kind of bashful at the end of our visit and then offered me some of her mom's jewelry, because she's always said that her mom (who passed away thirty years ago and I never got to meet) would have loved me. From everything I hear, the feeling's mutual. I was nearly moved to tears by the honor and and have picked out two pieces that I will treasure.
And this evening, in unexpectedly terrific news, my mom called to say she might make it to Nu's graduation party!
The thing is... I've been keeping a secret from her that I should probably disclose to her before she gets here. The secret's not wholly mine, but it's my mom, so I'm going to have to step up. That's dilemma #1.
Friday is At's birthday. I was planning to do family dinner with At and then hurry to a fancy dinner I RSVPed "yes" to because I was nominated for a CASA award. (This is what the fam encouraged me to do, and they were going to accompany me too.) From the detailed itinerary I was sent this afternoon, however, it looks like I did NOT win the award. Would I be a dick if I changed my RSVP now? This is dilemma #2.
And finally, I will be far away from my kids on Mother's Day as I'm scheduled to be in the U.K with my travel Spring Term. Should we celebrate long distance, or arrange a M.U.M. Day (Make Up Mother's Day) as we did last year?
Pic: I love dandelions. Lately, I've been torturing myself with thoughts about having let Scout play in a nearby park with no dandelions, which means the place may have been sprayed with toxic chemicals, which means he may have ingested some, which means that may have caused his tumor, which means Scout would be alive if I had been a bit smarter.
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Okay, that last part - no. Just, no. You cannot blame yourself, I will not let you. Okay? Please please please put that out of your mind. Shit happens all the time, and for no reason. Scout was here on earth for a short time but will always be in your heart, his soul is here. Also, usually there are signs when herbicides are sprayed so I will NOT LET YOU GO THERE. #bossy
What a lovely thing to have jewelry from your friend's mom! And your mom is coming for Nu's graduation! How long has it been since she's been to the US? What a wonderful gift!
How wonderful your mom might be able to make the trip for Nu's graduation party.
Please don't second guess yourself about Scout's death. If you're worried about weed-free fields, you can keep the dogs you have now off them, but it doesn't do any good to beat yourself up with what-ifs.
Oh, and it looks likely that I won't be with both kids on Mother's Day either. We're picking North up from school that weekend and Noah wants to stay here for an event. I am kind of bummed about it.
I torture myself similarly. Mulder loved to eat big clumps of freshly mown grass. I would not let him, but he was fast. If I had been quicker, would he still be with me? Not a good road to go down. 1. I’m sorry that we go down these roads, it sucks. 2. Thank you for being on the shitty road with me.
I hope your mom can be here for Nu’s graduation, that would be amazing!
Regarding Mother’s Day, why not do BOTH? A bit of celebration long distance, more celebration when you are all together? Life is hard sometimes, let’s celebrate ALL WE CAN!
Happy Birthday to At! My husband’s birthday is the following day (and Nance’s too, shhh!)
Please don't second guess yourself about Scout's death. Bad things happen and you are not at fault! You'd have to coop him up so much to avoid chemicals which would impact quality of life.
For Mother's Day, I would do a "Mother's Day Observed" holiday meaning pick a day that you are all free to celebration. And I would change your RSVP to no so you can give At your full attention!
That is exciting that your mom can come to Nu's party but tricky that her visit means revealing a secret that isn't yours to share...
I don't think you should blame yourself for Scout's cancer. The chance that a weed spray was the cause is remote. I'm sure your husband has reassured you of this many times. Believe him.
As far as the CASA dinner, what do you feel best about doing? Do you know the recipient of the award? Would you like to celebrate them? Would you like to celebrate CASA in general?
I'm not terribly committed to Mother's Day in general as a certain day. I like the idea of having a day to celebrate me as a mother, but it doesn't have to be ON THE DAY. I think a MUM Day is perfectly fine.
How lovely to have your mother coming for Nu!
OMG. You absolutely did not cause Scout's tumor by not recognizing that a lack of dandelion's may indicate the presence of toxins! I love telling people about my parents and recognizing when someone is a person my mom or dad would've loved. What a lovely gift, both ways, for your friend to share her mom's jewelry with you!
:) Thank you, Friend, you tell me!
My mom hasn't been since before the pandemic, and it's a long haul so I really wasn't expecting this!
I'm so excited for my mom's visit as I thought those days were over, Steph.
And yes, you're right about the rest. Thank you.
I am SO sorry about that! I know it means a lot. Noah should get his own "Mothers' Day" for sure. (I always think of his correction.)
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