Saturday, July 19, 2025

"unbecoming"

Stuck in a holding pattern today... Amma is stuck in the ICU (she hates it there because she loves company and is currently only allowed one visitor at a time twice a day); Big A is still holed up in the guest room with his road rash and his high fever.

I had to get out of the the house today. 

I said a fond and proud goodbye to TP, who's leaving Lansing to take up a tenure-track position at Bradley University.* I've known TP since they were a baby scholar and now they have a book out with Rutgers! (*I kept thinking Bradley sounded awfully familiar and only later did I realize it's because that's Sarah's [and Ben's?] alma mater!)

I had to attend a screening of my colleague SS's film Did You Guys Eat at the Broad Museum.

I had to take Max to a vet appointment. (Big A was supposed to, but clearly couldn't).

And then EM picked me up to take me to a "mental-health dinner" at Brody Cafeteria where I ate for the first time today, so I ate three plates of food and three desserts.

Pic: While at The Broad, I checked out Diana Al-Hadid's exhibit "Unbecoming" which plays on the concept of "unbecoming" as unraveling and also (when applied to women) as inappropriate. This particular piece was titled "Medusa." 

6 comments:

J said...

Your Amma sounds like my MIL, who wants nothing more than to be surrounded by loved ones, and certainly only 1 person at a time would SUCK. I hope she’s surrounded by loved ones again soon, lapping it up and cooking for people (if that is her thing) and telling bawdy jokes (if that is her thing). <3

Also, the exact same wishes for you.

Nicole said...

Sometimes you just need to get out of the house and distract yourself, my friend. Sending love. xo

StephLove said...

I'm glad you managed to take care of yourself. Try to eat regular meals. It might help you feel better, as much as possible under the circumstances.

maya said...

I need to hear more of these bawdy jokes!

maya said...

Thank you, Nicole <3

maya said...

Steph--a lot of the time like that family in Catherine Newman's _Sandwich_, I'm already planning the next meal when I'm eating one meal. It's one of the many reasons I love your posts (because of all the delicious descriptions of food). When I read your comment here, it struck me that it's an ableist privilege to ignore food. I'm sorry if that was grating.

not normal

Now that my mom is a bit more stable, I'm beginning to worry about Big A. It's not normal to have a fever for so many days. As Jenny...