Wednesday, June 05, 2024

scenes from a marriage

Big A and I have one major road to cross before we get on the riverwalk. Today, while the pedestrian lights are flashing, the first lane of traffic comes to a complete stop and the second lane is slowing down, so I get in the crosswalk...

But the car in the second lane keeps coming and I sort of freeze in the crosswalk. A pushes me aside as the car screeches to a halt and then he's in the driver's face yelling...

But the driver...

They're looking at me, or actually my legs, and it's so ridiculous I start laughing, and as he joins me, A is laughing too.

I'm glad we had that moment of adrenalin-fueled levity (and also that I didn't die or get dismembered), because we just heard that someone we used to be close to died unexpectedly. A really lovely person, MM was an OB-GYN who found homes for many unwanted and/or orphaned babies. (I used to fake berate Big A for not bringing home "work" babies like our friend MM did.) Anyway, suddenly they're dead and we're headed to their visitation tomorrow and looking into planting some trees as a memorial. I will miss MM, and also MM's kids are the same age as At... surely, it's too soon for it to be our generation's turn? (I know the answer is it's never too soon.)

Pic: The unidentified vine that's growing up the side of the house across the cladding. I think it's so pretty, but I know A is going to want to chop it down.

8 comments:

Gillian said...

Condolences.

Nicole said...

Oh I'm so sorry about your friend. It's too soon! That's just a life cut too short.
Also - as someone who used to see near misses all the time in crosswalks, so glad you're okay!

NGS said...

It's always a sobering reminder that anyone of us could go at any time, isn't it?

I was driving home yesterday when the car in front of my slammed on its brakes and put on its flashers and I was super panicked. Turned out he was helping a turtle cross the road. That's life in the swamp of my southeastern Wisconsin.

maya said...

Thanks, friends.
Engie--That sounds harrowing.

StephLove said...

I'm very sorry about your friend.

Beth and I have the same conflict about the ivy covering half of one side of our house. It's coming down, though, because the insurance company is insisting on it. I could have compromised with Beth, but not them.

maya said...

Thank you, Steph.
And also, I WAS SO THINKING ABOUT YOUR IVY when I wrote this! In our case, it's the pest control people suggesting we cut it down... and I think A will comply.

StephLove said...

Oh, the pest control company wants it down, too. I am severely outnumbered, and honestly really, really sad about it.

maya said...

I'm sorry, Steph. I'm glad you have all of your other beautiful plants and flowers to cheer you up.

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