Showing posts with label Family Tree. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family Tree. Show all posts
Sunday, May 11, 2014
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
Monday, April 14, 2014
This is a morning
Painted with the colors of my childhood
a door swings, calls my childhood name
the stairs lift me as did mother and father
the breeze, their blessing calling me home
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Tuesday, April 01, 2014
Sunday, April 07, 2013
For Amma
Mother, my diameter
I am yours, your radius.
Gambling into leaf too early
the crocuses are betrayed
frayed on drifts of winter,
sleet, and no daisies
at our feet
Bound to you. Only you.
But found by everyone.
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I am yours, your radius.
Gambling into leaf too early
the crocuses are betrayed
frayed on drifts of winter,
sleet, and no daisies
at our feet
All weekend long,
Toronto's lonely songs
their Omni and just me
the same Hindi movies
this time I see alone
Bound to you. Only you.
But found by everyone.
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Wednesday, March 27, 2013
Thursday, September 20, 2012
Amma
Called Amma to find out that she'd been sick and feverish for two days.
Sick since she got home from Benares; since she bathed in the Ganges with its famed sin-eliminating waters and decomposing corpses downstream.
She said she only meant to take a token dip but ended up doing nine. She said she swallowed some of the water.
In the last month two childhood friends have told me that their mothers died--one six years ago and C did not make it back to the funeral, the other one month ago on account of which S wasn't celebrating her birthday this month. I loved these "Aunties"--I loved their food, their style, their staunch support of their daughters. I yearn for a chance to tell them this.
I wonder when I'll see my own Amma again.
The kids called Amma this morning to yell "Get well soon, Ammama."
It's only been two months since I was in India.
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Sick since she got home from Benares; since she bathed in the Ganges with its famed sin-eliminating waters and decomposing corpses downstream.
She said she only meant to take a token dip but ended up doing nine. She said she swallowed some of the water.
In the last month two childhood friends have told me that their mothers died--one six years ago and C did not make it back to the funeral, the other one month ago on account of which S wasn't celebrating her birthday this month. I loved these "Aunties"--I loved their food, their style, their staunch support of their daughters. I yearn for a chance to tell them this.
I wonder when I'll see my own Amma again.
The kids called Amma this morning to yell "Get well soon, Ammama."
It's only been two months since I was in India.
_
Thursday, September 13, 2012
Once, twice
Your place is inside someone.
the closing of their heart
a landscape scaled to story
what if you knew everything
About why my sister looks like
my sister, the slap of silence;
the beating that is the phone ringing
The lament of memory in all
the half-remembered childhoods
what if those habits are only errands
dead from scorn; like butter asking
to be left out, sleepy in the sunlight
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the closing of their heart
a landscape scaled to story
what if you knew everything
About why my sister looks like
my sister, the slap of silence;
the beating that is the phone ringing
The lament of memory in all
the half-remembered childhoods
what if those habits are only errands
dead from scorn; like butter asking
to be left out, sleepy in the sunlight
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Sunday, April 08, 2012
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Spin
Yesterday, after I'd dropped the kids off at school and was driving home to work at syllabi and class prep, I ran over a squirrel. I've braked-swerved-stopped for the suicidal little creatures before and would have this time, except that this one leapt out of the undergrowth before I could harness a reaction. Serves me right. I should have biked/walked the kids. I felt the thunk of its body under the wheel and could see its inert form lying an inch or so from the edge of the road. I felt miserable.
I called my mother.
She was horrified. And suggested that to make up for taking a life, I should scatter grain in the garden for other squirrels to eat.
I'm such a bad person, that all I could think of was--but I'm not the one who eats meat!
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Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Tuesday, October 04, 2011
Back
Fair, hostile sky
grumble of wind
music wakes up,
an umbrella of rain
splinters of silence
In the cramped cage
of childhood
My mothers already
see everything
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grumble of wind
music wakes up,
miscommunicates
splinters of silence
In the cramped cage
of childhood
My mothers already
see everything
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Monday, October 03, 2011
Friday, September 30, 2011
Race, Class, and Gender
There's a lot of yammering about race, class, and gender in most of my classes, but that didn't stop me from being surprised by stuff people I really like have said lately. Friend X and I were talking about some other random stuff when he said:
It bugged me immediately that he would think that
(a) Race: Marrying a white person (like him!) is means of obtaining respect? And we're not talking people who might find me less alien because I happen to be married to one of their own. We're talking about respect from my own parents!
(b) Gender: Marrying "well" is the only way to earn my parents' respect?
I was fuming so I went home and told my mom, who proceeded to unleash the class bomb:
Mortifying.
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Your parents must respect you because you married a white guy.
It bugged me immediately that he would think that
(a) Race: Marrying a white person (like him!) is means of obtaining respect? And we're not talking people who might find me less alien because I happen to be married to one of their own. We're talking about respect from my own parents!
(b) Gender: Marrying "well" is the only way to earn my parents' respect?
I was fuming so I went home and told my mom, who proceeded to unleash the class bomb:
Nevermind, she said. Forget it. What does he know? He doesn't even have a good education, he's just a shopkeeper.
Mortifying.
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Wednesday, September 07, 2011
Tuesday, September 06, 2011
Monday, September 05, 2011
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Things Can Only Get Better
Dad's birthday. Woke up at 5 to wrap presents before final class prep. And then begged two kids and an adult with increasing desperation and superhuman amounts of groveling to sign his card from 6:45 to 7:50.
Was away all day on campus and then too late and tired to stop anywhere to get a birthday cake. (Lazy!!) Did a drive through Tim Hortons for 40 donut holes that the kids and I stacked into a pretty impressive "cake tower," parked a tealight on top, and had a festive birthday party anyway.
Happy Birthday, Daddy :). (You're the first feminist I ever met.)
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Was away all day on campus and then too late and tired to stop anywhere to get a birthday cake. (Lazy!!) Did a drive through Tim Hortons for 40 donut holes that the kids and I stacked into a pretty impressive "cake tower," parked a tealight on top, and had a festive birthday party anyway.
Happy Birthday, Daddy :). (You're the first feminist I ever met.)
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Sunday, July 03, 2011
SUPER 8
Loved it. And the shout out to Dayton was the highlight of our quiet midwestern phase of life.
We've been putting off seeing it because of the Lupus-suspicion related anguish and Big A's even weirder hours. And as we walked into the movie theater, Li'l A said--I look at that poster for Super 8 and I have no idea what it's going to be about.
I should have taken that opportunity to give my mom a heads up, because she told me later that she kept counting and recounting the kids and kept coming up with just six, so how were they the Super 8? She was thinking of the kids clubs we used to read when I was a kid--like Secret Seven and Famous Five :).
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We've been putting off seeing it because of the Lupus-suspicion related anguish and Big A's even weirder hours. And as we walked into the movie theater, Li'l A said--I look at that poster for Super 8 and I have no idea what it's going to be about.
I should have taken that opportunity to give my mom a heads up, because she told me later that she kept counting and recounting the kids and kept coming up with just six, so how were they the Super 8? She was thinking of the kids clubs we used to read when I was a kid--like Secret Seven and Famous Five :).
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Friday, July 01, 2011
With Caveats
After calling the derm for results repeatedly and being told that the results weren't in, computer was down, no one was available to read the results, we'll call you back (but no one called). After suspecting the worst, I finally received a call back. The nurse's assistant (nearly everyone had broken early for the long weekend) starts out by asking me how I'm doing. (How do you think?) And after talking to me about the weather, the upcoming weekend, apologizing for not calling sooner, says she went over it with a colleague to be sure, but it looks like the bloodwork appears to be in the normal range. So now we await biopsies.
Relief. Uncertainity. Not sure if we deserve this reprieve.
Knowing that if the biopsies come back clean, I'll be looking at shorter hair, and grandparents, husband, and eleven-year-old with shaven heads, and a life without chocolate.But it will be worth it to have a child with a host of other persnickety ailments that completely swallow our health services to the point where my dental work has been postponed for two years, but hey--perhaps not eating chocolate will resolve that.
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Relief. Uncertainity. Not sure if we deserve this reprieve.
Knowing that if the biopsies come back clean, I'll be looking at shorter hair, and grandparents, husband, and eleven-year-old with shaven heads, and a life without chocolate.But it will be worth it to have a child with a host of other persnickety ailments that completely swallow our health services to the point where my dental work has been postponed for two years, but hey--perhaps not eating chocolate will resolve that.
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