The day started with Jim Obergefell's voice on the radio to celebrate 10 years of marriage equality (how nice that it seems like longer!) and a long chat with bestie KB on her way to work.
So it should have been a good day.
But something KB told me kept haunting me. Apparently, an erstwhile colleague has been charged with sexually abusing a student. I've had this experience before where someone, who seemed like a good person and was exceedingly kind to me, turned out to have been abusive to the young people in his care. How completely unforgivable. And how sad, disturbing, and disappointing that I wasn't able to see it at the time and intervene before any harm was done.
Pic: I can buy myself flowers... I bought some water hyacinths and water lilies at Preuss Pets today (where I took this photo). Apparently, I can welcome veritable crowds to parties all year round without worrying about how the house looks, but I want things to look really spiffy for my mom and sis! (I also bought two lamps!)
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Oh, how awful. I learned very recently that (how do I keep this private, I need to change details) two men who are my husband's age were abused by the priest at their church when they were young boys and acolytes at that church. This was back in the 70s-80s. The thought that my husband missed this because he was never an acolyte, well, it's a bit of a close miss. It takes my breath away, how terrible people can be to children.
Take care.
Yeah, that is sad. My first thought always is that this person has been charged- we don't know the details yet (sadly I think most of these accusations do turn out to be true).
You want things to look spiffy because you're excited about the upcoming visit- I get it!
I'm sorry about the disturbing news. I have a near miss similar to Nicole's. We found out much later that the orthodontist that my sister and I went to had been molesting some of his female patients for years. Never us, but still... It's very common unfortunately.
It is so deeply disturbing to come up against the reality that you can never fully know a person. To be reminded that sometimes our proximity to cruelty and evil is much closer than we think. I'm so sorry you've had these experiences; what a betrayal of what you thought was true.
Water hyacinths and water lilies sound beautiful and I understand the urge to make things perfect for your mom. For me, it's an anxiety -- but simultaneously, it's a way to honor how much she means to me.
Oh this news heart my heart. And also, Maya, NONE of that is your fault. None.
You care big and deeply. This is a gift that makes the world better. But you are also human & your limits are welcomed and celebrated, too. ❤️
-Steph
I absolutely hate learning things like this, and especially how often it happens. In my family, there is no such thing as a good step-father. UGH.
EXCITING about your mom and sister! I would want to spruce up too! I remember my mom fretting hours before my Grandma came to town to visit, “How am I going to get a lawn in so the yard looks nice?” HA!
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